A reader said she liked my synastry post and that more people should be writing on this topic. Since my progressed sun is in the seventh house, maybe this is a good time for me to think and write about relationships.
When I think of synastry, I always want to know what the nodes are doing. It’s the influence of Eugenie Diserio. Years ago, I spent a few months in Singapore. Surfing the net. That’s all I did. Ten to twelve hours a day. And what I stumbled upon was Eugenie Diserio’s “Ask Genie” column on astrology and relationships. She’d give relationship advice and she’d always factor in the nodes. Eugenie’s a great astrologer and a good writer and she’s made a deep impact on how I approach charts when it comes to relationships.
Important relationships always show nodal connections whether it is work, marriage, friendship or those rare and magical times when we feel inexplicably yet inexorably drawn to someone we just met. The nodes (by themselves) do not promise longevity in relationships, nor does the presence of nodal contacts guarantee that a relationship will ever form. But they do indicate that a connection exists, maybe just at the soul level, and the person who has nodal synastry with you will leave their mark on the fabric of your being.
Traditionally, the south node indicates our past lives and the north node the lessons we need to learn in the present one. So if someone’s planets conjunct your south node, they bring with them the flavor of the old bonds you once shared. Venus conjunct the south node is a past-life lover and you will share a haunting chemistry with them. The sun and the moon can indicate a parent; Jupiter, a teacher and so on. The north node contacts are people who light up the path you are meant to pursue in this life. They are all your teachers, each and every one of them. They help you become who you are meant to be in this life. It is because of this reason that astrologers favor NN contacts over the SN node while examining the health of a relationship.
I just did a rapid chart scan of people who matter or have mattered to me, to see how the nodes were playing out. There is contact between the nodes and planets in almost every single case. The man who broke my heart has his Venus conjunct my SN node, an aspect Cafe Astrology describes as that of star-crossed lovers. The man I married has his sun in the same sign as my NN and vice versa. One of my closest friends has her Jupiter exactly conjunct my NN: a friend I made when I was in my late twenties, not a time when friendship is easy to form, and I know that we will be friends forever in this lifetime. An ex-boss, and my favorite example of a person who uses her power well, has her Uranus conjunct my NN: I learnt a lot from her.
The contacts exist even with casual friends with whom I share a light but meaningful bond. Take, RR: my Venus conjuncts her NN and her Mercury conjuncts my NN. She’s a beautiful free spirit and our paths seldom cross, but once in a while we hang out and get to talking. Because her Scorpio sun is in the same sign as my moon, we tend to talk of Scorpionic things. And every single time, our conversation is punctuated by goose pimples. This happens multiple times in a single conversation. I laugh at this and tell her we both must have been white witches in a past life. The nodal connections in the charts don’t show any past life links, but they do show the presence of easy affection and flowing communication. And it’s true; our encounters always leave us feeling happier. A whimsical way to see it would be to say that she belongs to my extended soul family.
Whether you delving deeper into synastry as a subject, or merely interested in it for a personal reason, you can do no better than to take a look at what the experts have to say. So what are you waiting for? Here are the links:
Getting to Node You by Noel Tyl
The Nodal Horoscope In Synastry by Basil Fearrington
Aspects between Charts at Cafe Astrology
P.S. I wrote an article on nodes and synastry for Sasstrology. If you’re so inclind, you can find it here: http://sasstrology.com/2009/10/nodes-in-synastry-an-introduction.html
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Great article! I just browsed over charts of important people in my life and noticed the node contacts were pretty bang on.
I was originally curious about this configuration when I noticed that my Sun and Mercury both fall directly on the degree of my mother’s south node. I was afraid that this would be interpreted as a ‘regressive’ aspect in karmic terms, but this article sums up the South node in a less scary way. I’m still curious and looking for more things to read…
Thanks, Lucy. I can’t tell you how much I love the nodes. Maybe because they are very strongly aspected in my own chart.
They fascinate me in synastry, too.
Dawn’s done some great work on nodes and synastry. This is her blog: http://alcuin9.wordpress.com/
what does the aspect north node conj moon mean at synastry?
I’m guessing the theme of nurturing is going to be a part of this contact.
What does that mean when there is a Sun conjunct Snode, and saturn conjuncts N node? Is it very karmic and stressful?
Is there anyway to break the old bond between the Sun and the South Node?
Donna Cunningham has written on her blog about clearning contracts made in other lives.
If we think about karmic bonds between people…..I really don’t know how this works. But I was very impressed by what Linda Goodman said about forgiving and thus breaking the karmic contact from recurring.
Or just saying a prayer and letting go, in your heart, or to be asked to let go.
What do you think it means when you have ?
There are a bunch of others,but these really stood out.
My NNd (Lib 09°51′) – His SNd (Aqu 03°51′): trine (120°00′) orb: 6°00′
My NNd (Lib 09°51′) – His Chi (Aqu 11°45′): trine (120°00′) orb: 1°54′
My SNd (Ari 09°51′) – His NNd (Leo 03°51′): trine (120°00′) orb: 6°00′
My SNd (Ari 09°51′) – His Chi (Aqu 11°45′): sextile (60°00′) orb: 1°54′
His NNd (Leo 03°51′) -My SNd (Ari 09°51′): trine (120°00′) orb: 6°00′
NNd (Leo 03°51′) – Chi (Ari 04°57′): trine (120°00′) orb: 1°06′
His SNd (Aqu 03°51′) – NNd (Lib 09°51′): trine (120°00′) orb: 6°00′
SNd (Aqu 03°51′) – Chi (Ari 04°57′): sextile (60°00′) orb: 1°06′
Joy: trines should be under 3 degrees. Trines that are 6 degrees are kinda wide…
My ex-wife and I have interchanged nodes, i.e. her AQU NN conj’s my SN, and my LEO NN conj’s her SN. We were together for 12 years, and actually married for 6 years. We’re a heavily SCO-CAP power couple with a lot of trined Earth planets.
My current #1 and I have a synastric overlapping double Yod trapezoid (two sextiles joined by a quincunx and a square). I’m double SCO, and she’s TAU Sun (and Moon)/GEM rising. The corners of our double Yod are her Mars (conj. Mercury) in GEM, her Pluto in LEO (conj my NN), my Sun in SCO, and my Saturn in CAP. Bu-u-u-u-t…her SAG NN (SN conj. her Mars) turns one Yod into a Boomerang, and her NN trines my NN (conj. her Pluto).
Her SCO Saturn conj’s my Neptune-ASC-Venus-Mercury (chart dispositor) and opposes my TAU Moon (conj her Moon), and my CAP Saturn trines her TAU Sun.
Another power couple? We’re both singers and astrologers.
Enjoyed this very much Neeti!!!
Hi Katrina,
I remember writing this one, it’s one of my earlier entries and I have fond memories of that time.
Thanks for reading it and thanks for taking the time to write this note.
Love,
Neeti
Hi Neeti,
Thank-you for such an informative article. I’ve been having a hard time finding information about the north node. I wanted to ask you what it means to have somebody’s north node conjunction my “descendant” in the 7th house in gemini? This is a much younger family member if mine. I feel such a strong psychic connection to this person when they were born. When I held her in my arms for the first time I had this psychic impression that I was going to “help” her in a very significant way, and then an exact age popped into my head. I’ve never disclosed this to anyone. Is her NN aspect a part of this do you think? Thank-you!
Sag
I think having a NN and a DSC conjunction is significant for sure.
wow, your article was most insightful but i don’t have any venus/ nodal connections w the person I like, his sun trines my north & south node, neptune conjunct both my nodes, pluto trine south node
my sun conjunct south, oppose north, mars & pluto square both, saturn trine & sextile north & south.
only problem is we have even never met in person yet, just some weird 4 year internet thing.
my south node is in his ic and my north node is in his mc (& vice versa). His south node is in pisces and his north node is in virgo. my ic is pisces and mc is virgo. am I just looking for signs in nothing? I don’t know how he manage to make my soul twist from 10,000 miles away.
Neptune conjunct both your nodes?